What is an OKAY.ZONE?

Essentially an open-house for respectful folk who intentionally promote human contact. more

Every OKAY.ZONE is a welcoming place with zero tolerance for negativity.

“A safehouse for your psyche” ™

Implicitly this rules out drugs, violence, sexism, bigotry, politics, religion, and other forms of oppression.

Glow here or go away.

Three official tags for identifying OKAY.ZONE volunteers and host locations.

Use this royalty-free graphic to create signage & other materials for your local OKAY.ZONE

OKAY.ZONE Guidelines

  1. Forget "No"... We have Yes, or Not-yes. more

    Not-yes does not involve explanations or negativity. It is judgment free. Not-yes can be delivered with the same genuine smile as Yes. Nobody's feelings should be hurt. Hope is preserved, along with some mystery and sincere warmth.

    (But when you get a Not-yes response you don't persist, never ask why, don't challenge the response, you just back off. Try later maybe. And remember that later doesn't mean 2 minutes from now. LATER.)

     
  2. Wait for a sign before approaching any individual or group. Palm up beckoning, means you may approach and speak with them. Palm flat downward, means not now.
     
  3. Always contribute something to make the place better. more

    This doesn't have to be a material thing, although cash and provisions are always welcomed too. Effort also counts as contribution. Offer massage. Entertain with dance or music. Carry playing cards, books & DVDs, or a WiFi hotspot you're willing to share. Bake cookies! Anything helps.

    Anytime somebody is cooking or cleaning, it is everybody's job to help until the work is done. Lounging happens later.

     
  4. When somebody wants a hug your arms are never broken. more

    You may want to put more clothes on first, or take a bathroom break before somebody squeezes you, or ask that the recipient take a shower, but then you come back around and hug them. If you can't hug your host(s) or the other people in the OKAY.ZONE, you leave.

    If you ARE the host but not willing to hug other human beings of every physical description, you must remove your sign and quit hosting.

     
  5. By the preference of each host, clothing may be optional. Respect is never optional. more

    Inappropriate, unwanted advances are still criminal, no matter how liberated the setting. Apply copious thoughtfulness and protection with your sexual conduct, always, always.

    Time and capacity limits also should be observed. Nobody should dominate any particular scene. When a crowd arrives, move on.

Consent Wheel GAME 

This game is a derivative work, adapted from Betty Martin's original Wheel of Consent, and the 3-Minute Game which she carried forward from her predecessor Harry Faddis. It had been the inspirational springboard for her Wheel -- which now becomes the core of my newly devised game -- bringing the theme full circle, I dare say.



I do hope you'll enjoy sharing this. It's a bit racy, taunting, in the direction of games like "spin the bottle" except with meticulous consent being structured throughout. It does not dwell on eroticism or intercourse, but could be applied toward nearly any kind of negotiation where the aim is to curry favour... even for chores around the house!

Of course, there is a clothing-optional aspect akin to strip poker, which is suggestive. But who says one cannot do chores around the house, semi-nude? Oh I digress. Just download & print this .PDF file please.

Enjoy!     =)